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The other day a young person asked me how I felt about being old. I was taken aback, for I do not think of myself as old. Upon seeing my reaction, she was immediately embarrassed, but I explained that it was an interesting question, and I would ponder it, and let her know.

Old Age, I decided, is a gift.

I am now, probably for the first time in my life, the person I have always wanted to be. Oh, not my body! I sometimes despair over my body; the wrinkles, the baggy eyes, and the sagging butt. And often I am taken aback by the old person that lives in my mirror, but I don't agonize over those things for long.

I would never trade my amazing friends, my wonderful life, my loving family for less gray hair or a flatter belly. As I've aged, I've become more kind to myself, and less critical of myself. I've become my own friend. I don't chide myself for eating that extra cookie, or for not making my bed, or for buying that silly cement gecko that I didn't need, but looks so avant-garde on my patio. I am entitled to overeat, to be messy, to be extravagant. I have seen too many dear friends leave this world too soon; before they understood the greatest freedom that comes with aging.

Whose business is it if I choose to read or play on the computer until 4 am and sleep till noon?

I will dance with myself to those wonderful tunes of the 60's, and if I, at the same time, wish to weep over a lost love...I will.

I will walk the beach in a swim suit that is stretched over a bulging body, and will dive into the waves with abandon if I choose to, despite the pitying glances from the bikini set.

They too will get old.

I know that I am sometimes forgetful. But there again, some of life is just as well forgotten and I eventually remember the important things.

Sure, over the years my heart has been broken. How can your heart not break when you lose a loved one, or when a child suffers, or even when a beloved pet gets hit by a car? But broken hearts are what give us strength and understanding and compassion. A heart never broken is pristine and sterile and will never know the joy of being imperfect.

I am so blessed to have lived long enough to have my hair turn gray, and to have my youthful laughs be forever etched into deep grooves on my face, So many have never laughed, and so many have died before their hair could turn silver. I can say "no," and mean it. I can say "yes," and mean it.

As you get older, it is easier to be positive. You care less about what other people think. I don't question myself anymore. I've been earned the right to be wrong.

So, to answer your question, I like being old. It has set me free. I like the person I have become. I am not going to live forever, but while I am still here, I will not waste time lamenting what could have been, or worrying about what will be. And I shall eat dessert every single day.

Author Unknown

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When I am Old...

I shall wear Turquoise and soft gray sweatshirts...
and a bandana over my silver hair...
and I shall spend my Social Security Checks
on Sweet Wine and My Dogs...
and sit in my house on my well-worn chair,
and listen to my dog's breathing.

I will sneak out in the middle of a warm Summer night
and take my dogs for a run, if my old bones will allow...
and when people come to call,
I will smile and nod as I show them my dogs...
and talk of them and about them...
The Ones so Beloved of the Past
and the Ones so Beloved of Today....

I still will work hard cleaning after them
and mopping and feeding them
and whispering their names in a soft, loving way.
I will wear their gleaming drool on my throat like a jewel,
and I will be an embarrassment to all, and my family...
who have not yet found the peace in being free
to have dogs as your Best Friends....

These friends who always wait,
at any hour, for your footfall...
and eagerly jump to their feet out of a sound sleep,
to greet you as if you are a God.
With warm eyes full of adoring love
and hope that you will stay and hug their big, strong necks...
and kiss their dear sweet heads...
and whisper to them of your love and the
beautiful pleasure of their very special company....

I look in the Mirror...
and see I am getting old....
this is the kind of woman I am...
and have always been.
Loving dogs is easy, they are part of me,
accept me for who I am,
My dogs appreciate my presence in their lives...
When I am old this will be important to me...
you will understand when you are old....
and if you have dogs to love too.

Author Unknown

A person is always startled when he hears himself seriously called an old man for the first time - Oliver Wendell Holmes

Age is no guarantee of maturity - Lawana Blackwell

To keep the heart unwrinkled, to be hopeful, kindly, cheerful, reverent - that is to triumph over old age - Thomas Bailey Aldrich

When an old lady died in the geriatric ward of a small hospital near Dundee, Scotland, it was felt that she had nothing left of any value. Later, when the nurses were going through her meager possessions, they found this poem.

Its quality and content so impressed the staff that copies were made and distributed to every nurse in the hospital. One nurse took her copy to Ireland. The old lady's sole bequest to posterity has since appeared in the Christmas edition of the News Magazine of the North Ireland Association for Mental Health. A slide presentation has also been made based on her simple, but eloquent, poem. And this little old Scottish lady, with nothing left to give to the world, is now the authoress of this "anonymous" poem winging cross the Internet.

Goes to show that we all leave "some footprints in time".....

An Old Lady's Poem

What do you see, nurses, what do you see? What are you thinking when you're looking at me?

A crabby old woman, not very wise, Uncertain of habit, with faraway eyes?

Who dribbles her food and makes no reply When you say in a loud voice, "I do wish you'd try!"

Who seems not to notice the things that you do, And forever is losing a stocking or shoe.....

Who, resisting or not, lets you do as you will, With bathing and feeding, the long day to fill....

Is that what you're thinking? Is that what you see? Then open your eyes, nurse; you're not looking at me.

I'll tell you who I am as I sit here so still, As I do at your bidding, as I eat at your will.

I'm a small child of ten ...with a father and mother, Brothers and sisters, who love one another.

A young girl of sixteen, with wings on her feet, Dreaming that soon now a lover she'll meet.

A bride soon at twenty -- my heart gives a leap, Remembering the vows that I promised to keep.

At twenty-five now, I have young of my own, Who need me to guide, and a secure happy home.

A woman of thirty, my young now grown fast, Bound to each other with ties that should last

At forty, my young sons have grown and are gone, But my man's beside me to see I don't mourn.

At fifty, once more, babies play round my knee, Again we know children, my loved one and me.

Dark days are upon me, my husband is dead; I look at the future, I shudder with dread. For my young are all rearing young of their own, And I think of the years and the love that I've known.

I'm now an old woman...and nature is cruel; 'Tis jest to make old age look like a fool. The body, it crumbles, grace and vigor depart, There is now a stone where I once had a heart. But inside this old carcass a young girl still dwells, And now and again my battered heart swells.

I remember the joys, I remember the pain, And I'm loving and living life over again. I think of the years....all too few, gone too fast, And accept the stark fact that nothing can last. So open your eyes, nurses, open and see, Not a crabby old woman; look closer...see ME!!

Young people are in a condition like permanent intoxication, because youth is sweet and they are growing - Aristotle

Dance like no one is watching. Sing like no one is listening. Love like you've never been hurt and live like it's heaven on Earth - Mark Twain

How old would you be if you didn't know how old you were? ~ Satchel Paige

There is no old age.  There is, as there always was, just you! ~ Carol Matthau

There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle - Albert Einstein

This was written by an 83 year old...

Dear Bertha,

I'm reading more and dusting less. I'm sitting in the yard and admiring the view without fussing about the weeds in the garden. I'm spending more time with my family and friends and less time working. Whenever possible, life should be a pattern of experiences to savor, not to endure. I'm trying to recognize these moments now and cherish them.

I'm not "saving" anything; we use our good china and crystal for every special event such as losing a pound, getting the sink unstopped, or the first Amaryllis blossom.

I wear my good blazer to the market. My theory is if I look prosperous, I can shell out $28.49 for one small bag of groceries..

I'm not saving my good perfume for special parties, but wearing it for clerks in the hardware store and tellers at the bank.

"Someday" and "one of these days" are losing their grip on my vocabulary; if it's worth seeing or hearing or doing, I want to see and hear and do it now.

I'm not sure what others would've done had they known they wouldn't be here for the tomorrow that we all take for granted.

I think they would have called family members and a few close friends. They might have called a few former friends to apologize and mend fences for past squabbles.

I like to think they would have gone out for a Chinese dinner or for whatever their favorite food was.

I'm guessing; I'll never know.

It's those little things left undone that would make me angry if I knew my hours were limited. Angry because I hadn't written certain letters that I intended to write one of these days. Angry and sorry that I didn't tell my husband and parents often enough how much I truly love them. I'm trying very hard not to put off, hold back, or save anything that would add laughter and luster to our lives.

And every morning when I open my eyes, I tell myself that it is special. Every day, every minute, every breath truly is a gift from God. 

"People say true friends must always hold hands, but true friends don't need to hold hands because they know the other hand will always be there."

I don't believe in miracles. I rely on them.

Life may not be the party we hoped for, but while we are here we might as well dance.

Author Unknown

I never feel age...If you have creative work, you don't have age or time - Louise Nevelson

As you grow older, you stand for more and fall for less - Anonymous

We cannot really love anybody with whom we never laugh - Agnes Repplier

 

Being seventy is not a sin - Golda Meir

All that we are is the result of what we have thought - Buddha

"As one goes through life one learns that if you don't paddle your own canoe, you don't move" ~ Katherine Hepburn

With age come the inner, the higher life. Who would be forever young, to dwell always in externals? - Elizabeth Cady Stanton

Old age has a great sense of calm and freedom. When the passions have relaxed their hold, you have escaped not from one master but from many - Plato

The longer I live the more beautiful life becomes. - Frank Lloyd Wright

Everyone is the age of their heart ~ Guatemalan proverb

Respect for Elders

A Native American tradition holds that when a young person walks away after stopping and talking, with respect, to an Elder, the Elder says, "May you live as long and as good a life as I have lived and when you grow old may the young ones treat you with honor and respect."

Our heritage has always had a respect for Elders. Native American philosophy is based on all things moving in a circle. Any point in the circle is as important in the circle as any other point. Everything and everyone is connected. The Elders are the ones who teach us the ways of the Ancient Ones. They are the ones who have lived through many changes, and see things through wiser eyes. They are the ones who can look back on the years and say, "After all is said and done, this is what is really important in life."

When we treat our elders with honor and respect, we also teach the young ones how to treat us when we reach that stage in life.

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If you can walk you can dance. If you can talk you can sing ~ Zimbabwe Proverb

OLD AGE 2004

I have always dreaded old age. I cannot imagine
anything worse than being old. How awful it must
be to have nothing  to do all day long but stare at
the walls or watch TV. So last week, when the
mayor suggested we all celebrate Senior Citizen
Week by cheering up a senior citizen, I determined
to do just that. I would call on my new neighbor, an
elderly retired gentleman, recently widowed, who,
I presumed, had moved in with his married daughter
because he was too old to take care of himself.
I baked a batch of brownies and  without bothering
to call (some old people cannot hear the phone),
I went off to brighten this old guy's day. When
I rang the doorbell, this "old guy" came to the
door dressed in tennis shorts and a polo shirt,
looking about as ancient and decrepit as Donny
Osmond.

"I'm sorry I can't invite you in," he said when I
introduced myself, "but I'm due at the Racquet
Club at two. I'm playing in the semifinals today."

"Oh, that's all right," I said. "I baked you some
brownies..."

"Great!", he interrupted, snatching the box,
"Just what I need for bridge club tomorrow!
Thanks so much!"

"...and just thought we'd visit a while, but that's
okay, I'll just trot across the street and call on
Granny Grady..."

"Don't bother," he said, "Gran's not home.  I know,
I just called to remind her of our date to go dancing
tonight. She may be at the beauty shop. She mentioned
at breakfast that she had an appointment for a tint job."

I called my Mother's cousin (age 83), she was in
the hospital... working in the gift shop. I called my
aunt (age 74); she was on vacation in China. I called
my husband's uncle (age 79). I forgot, he was on
his honeymoon. I still dread old age, now more than
ever. I just don't think I'm up to it...
Author Unknown

Old age ain't no place for sissies ~ Unknown

When I Was In My Younger Days

When I was in my younger days,
I weighed a few pounds less,
I needn't hold my tummy in
to wear a belted dress.

But now that I am older,
I've set my body free;
There's comfort of elastic
where once my waist would be.

Inventor of those high-heeled shoes
my feet have not forgiven;
I have to wear a nine now;
But used to wear a seven.

And how about those pantyhose?
They're sized by weight, you see,
So how come when I put them on,
the crotch is at my knees?

I need to wear these glasses
as the prints were getting smaller;
And it wasn't very long ago
I know that I was taller.

Though my hair has turned to silver
and my skin no longer fits;
On the inside, I'm the same old me,
Just the outside's changed a bit.

~*~Author Unknown~*~

Middle age is when your narrow waist and broad mind exchange places!  ~ Unknown

" Let us labour to make the heart grow larger as we become older, as the spreading oak gives more shelter " - Richard Jefferies

Everyone is the age of their heart ~ Guatemalan proverb

The hardest years in life are those between ten and seventy ~ Helen Hayes (at 73)

When grace is joined with wrinkles, it is adorable. There is an unspeakable dawn in happy old age - Victor Hugo

"Middle age is when your narrow waist and broad mind exchange places!" ~ Unknown

 

Forty is the old age of youth; fifty is the youth of old age ~ French proverb

Nobody knows the age of the human race, but everybody agrees that it is old enough to know better ~ Unknown

   

"When our memories outweigh our dreams, we have grown old" ~ William J. Clinton - Bill Clinton

 

The longer I live the more beautiful life becomes - Frank Lloyd Wright

 "I have drunk of the wine of life, I have known the thing best worth knowing, I have been warmed through and through, never to grow quite cold again till the end" Edith Wharton

I'm very pleased with each advancing year. It stems back to when I was forty. I was a bit upset about reaching that milestone, but an older friend consoled me. 'Don't complain about growing old - many, many people do not have that privilege.' - Earl Warren

 "Life is what we make it; always has been always will be" ~ Grandma Moses

Though it sounds absurd, it is true to say I felt younger at sixty than I felt at twenty. - Ellen Glasgow

" Let us labour to make the heart grow larger as we become older, as the spreading oak gives more shelter " - Richard Jefferies

To me, old age is always 15 years older than I am. - Bernard M. Baruch

It is a mistake to regard age as a downhill grade toward dissolution. The reverse is true. As one grows older, one climbs with surprising strides. - George Sand

To me, old age is always 15 years older than I am. - Bernard M. Baruch

Young people are in a condition like permanent intoxication, because youth is sweet and they are growing. - Aristotle

You know you're getting old when the candles cost more than the cake. -  Bob Hope

Age is…wisdom, if one has lived one's life properly. - Miriam Makeba

The young have aspirations that never come to pass, the old have reminiscences of what never happened. - Saki

I have enjoyed greatly the second blooming…suddenly you find - at the age of 50, say - that a whole new life has opened before you - Agatha Christie
 

        

 Young men's minds are always changeable, but when an old man is concerned in a matter, he looks both before and after - Homer

Every man over forty is a scoundrel -George Bernard Shaw

To be 70 years young is sometimes far more cheerful and hopeful than to be 40 years old - Oliver Wendell Holmes

I hope life isn't a big joke, because I don't get it - Jack Handey  

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